Journey from being Decent to Indecent -2

A girl has to leave her family, her home and memories behind for her soul-mate after marriage. Thought of leaving all these behind , is itself a painful thought.  Every corner of her home where she used to play hide and seek with her siblings. Her mother's lappy after crying over silly things, Her dad's protectiveness who did everything to make her daughter her princess happy. She has to live without these in her future. This is such a big event of her life that she has been taught this since her childhood. It took years to accept that she wouldn't be part of her family for lifetimes. Many times she had even cried to know that from her aunt and uncles that she will get married one day and has to leave her mom dad.

Now just because she has fallen in love with someone, She got ineligible for parents love and care. And even her siblings can't take her side, if they do, they will be partner in crime. She is not a daughter now, She has born in her parents home to take revenge of their previous life. Just because of the society her parent wants her to choose either them or her guy. As she can't choose between inhaling and exhaling, she can't select any one between their parents and her guy.  

It may take time to make her parents ready to face the society to say that 'They have brought up their daughter well enough to make her own decisions of her life. And she has made a right choice. And it not a crime to support their children if they are on the right track.' . But It will be done very soon. May be not in this generation may be next.

Journey from being Decent to Indecent

A girl, brought up with lots of love, who was blessed and pampered from both parents. Father's brave girls and Mumma's naughty girl. Whenever her dad's said that she is brave enough to do any work, she tried her best to do and completed that, even if she had being shivering from fear. And her mom was afraid of  that she could say anything in front of  any one. As she does in front of many relative once. She appreciated her mom's beauty in a wedding by saying "Mom you are looking patakha(Bombshell)". ;-)

One day Papa’s girl denied to go to her aunt’s home in neighbourhood to ask for ice in summers. She innocently asked to her mother:”Mumma don’t my papa earn. Then why we don’t have refrigerator in our home?”. Father replied :”Yes darling I do, Now tell me what should be the color of our new refrigerator”. And on the very next day she got a refrigerator in her home. She grew up. Not very good in studies but more than average students.

Times keeps on passing. She goes from school to college, college to job. She made her parents proud in most of the fields without being praised by them. But she always knew this and was delighted to be so. As she knew this, they just don't praise her in front of her but wouldn't leave a single chance to show her daughter's achievement's to others. Indian parents are like this only and it is being carried out since very early generation. As she never saw her grand-parents doing so either.

Days were going well with her job. She switched to other company. And from this point her life changed. She met a decent guy there, who was not just helpful in official work, but was always ready to help for everyone. From humans to animals, he was humble with  everyone. She liked him as person. And as per the god's plan, he liked her too. Both fell in love. She was on the cloud nine to be with him. She wanted to maintain the same through out her life.

Time comes to tell her parents about the guys she loved. As she expected, her parents reacted and opposed the fact of love marriage. Since ages everyone in her family got married with the choice of their parents  which is known as arrange marriage. Every single word which defines her in her parents view took a 180 turn . From being intelligent she became dump, from being decent to indecent. Every achievement of her got vanished in front of this biggest mistake. How could she choose a life partner for her. She has right to choose  what to study for her career path, she can choose from job options, she can opt her friends. But how she can forget this, she is an Indian girl. She don't have right to love someone from core of her heart. Its not her parents behaving so, this is the society which certified a girl or guy being sincere and obedient child, if he/she got married to their parents choice after having N number of affairs.


To be Continued...

A moment of devotion

Around 6 pm at Guffa mandir in Preet Vihar, It was Aarti time. As we entered, pandit ji asked him to ring the bell for aarti. Aarti is something to convey Ur thanks to god and to pray for being blessed.
Though I don't like high volume sounds, but there is something magical in the sound of the temple bells. It makes Ur mind to concentrate on god. It could vary from person to person and time to time.

Aarti started. We were in front of lord shiv and Goddess Parvati along with Lord Ganesh. I was standing in between of lord's family and him my future family. Mantra chants started, bell started ringing, once twice thrice.... n kept on going..  I really do believe in God's plans. Just to remind Bhagwan ji.
Me: " Bhagwan ji, this is the guy behind me who is ringing the bell and I know what he has asked to you.. Will u please please listen to him n bless him."

Lord Shiva smiled. n me too. I looked back, he was still busy in offering his services. By the time I was only able to see, was lord Shiva's family and him. only sound which were reaching to my mind was bells sound. he looked at me as he is saying "I m here don't worry. m ok. my hands are not aching".
I turned back.

"Thank u bhagwan ji, I promise I will take care of him throughout my life. Please give me this chance to do so."

Fear of Loosing

We were on the way back to home in our cab. As usual our back seats, which were almost the permanent seats for us. His phone rings. It was Manish(cousin brother), who is a huge fan of him. Only things which attracted my attention towards their talk was "Nhi karni". The first ever felt fear of loosing him, which almost took my breath away. These talks over the phone call was about the marriage proposal which was for him. Though he had denied it but it was dreadful for me to even think about it. Just some words were more than enough to make me restless. We were holding hands before the call and now the grip got more firm from my side after this call. As if holding his hand tighter could stop him. It was the time I was not able to realise that we were not alone. My head landed in his lap with closed eyes and holding his hands firmly. It stayed like this for most of the time till the time we reached at my drop point. Still I was not ready to get down but I needed to. Though He tried alot to hold my restlesness, but it was too much to be handled.
Thanks alot to god to help me to clear up my mind that what I need in my life. :)

Don't be crushed ;-)

Its OK to pick a little work or stress rather being crushed under its weight.